Relax your grip
Whatever you are working toward or hoping for . . . relax your grip. When one tries too hard or holds too tightly, we end up pushing the things we want further away. Imagine a tightly closed hand. It is full of resistance and repels with its' clenched nature. Though a soft open hand is able to receive.
It is the same in yoga asana practice. When one tries too much there is no yoga. When I was first learning adho mukha vrksasana, handstand, I was gripping too much. I realize now, years later, how much of it (possibly all) was in the mind. I believed it was hard, so it was.
When one tries too much there is no yoga. Connect to your breathing, and open to new spaces and meditative states of mind.
Once I focused on my breathing, building on a stable foundation of course, I felt a sense of calm and steadiness in the asana. When we steady the breath we steady the mind, and currents of Prana flow freely. Practice with full awareness, but go easy. I've learned the lighter we are in attitude, the more we enjoy practice and life.
When the mind is calm, the asana is perfect. -sri k. pattabhi jois